James Ebo Whyte, a playwright and motivational speaker, has encouraged husbands to quickly adjust to evolving societal changes and adopt new family life models to foster peace, joy, and harmony at home.
Mr. Whyte, widely recognised as Uncle Ebo Whyte, stated that the conventional male-female roles in marriage have changed, and contemporary men need to connect with their partners in a manner distinct from their fathers’ approach to their mothers.
During a local broadcast on Friday before the Father’s Day celebration, Mr. Whyte remarked that the stereotype of the man as the only provider is outdated, as an increasing number of women occupy leadership positions in corporate environments.
“My father, years ago, was not seen in the kitchen. If the family saw him there, they would attack my mother and call her a witch,” he said.
“Today, let’s say your wife is earning more than you do. She’s in a high position. At 4:30 p.m., you’re home already, but she’s just starting a meeting because she’s the head of a department reviewing targets.
“You’re resting at home at 5:00 p.m. and calling her to ask, ‘Where is my food?’ We should learn to understand our roles in the current world,” he said.
The famous motivational speaker mentioned that many contemporary women prepare and store meals, so husbands should feel at ease reheating their food when needed.
“A lot of career women cook for the week, dish it into containers, and store it in the fridge. All you have to do is warm it and eat,” he said.
Mr. Whyte urged husbands to engage more fully in household activities and reconsider the idea that financial duties rest exclusively with the man.
“The idea that every expense should be the man’s burden must change so that marriage becomes a true partnership,” he said.
Uncle Ebo White noted that although numerous Ghanaian men excelled as fathers, they frequently underperformed as husbands.
“Your mother buys a gift for you and says, ‘Your father asked me to give this to you. Go and thank him.’ You go to thank him, and the look on his face tells you he may not know anything about it. But that’s what makes him a good husband,” he added.
Mr. Whyte called on fathers to foster strong, transparent relationships with their kids and to avoid being absent figures at home.
“If your children need something, why can’t they come to you directly? Why must they go through their mother?” he asked.
“Let them feel safe and have access to you.”
He stressed the importance of respecting and aiding wives to maintain the household and urged men to mend troubled relationships with their partners.
Mr Whyte attributed many of the challenges in fatherhood and marriage to societal shortcomings in the upbringing of boys.
“Girls are raised carefully. Boys are left to find their own way, with the assumption that they will somehow know right from wrong,” he said.
“When a man and woman are at the altar exchanging vows, the woman knows what she’s doing. The man may only understand what it means to be married five years in – if he’s lucky.”
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