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Relationship counselor Uncle Ebo Whyte has urged women to get rid of them in their relationships, because anxieties and insecurities make it easier for their men to control them.
On the Heart Bay part of the TV3 New Day morning broadcast, he told Cookie Tee about this.
Uncle Ebo Whyte made the observation that insecurity thrives in the absence of trust during a conversation on privacy in partnerships.
According to Uncle Ebo Whyte, men love insecure women, because they can control and lie to them anyway they please.
He said that males frequently base their decisions on how insecure their partners act. These individuals, according to him, know when to cheat and when not to.
“Men love the women who don’t trust us. It’s easy to fool them. It’s very easy. When I am relating to you, and I know you are suspicious of me, you make me alert. You won’t see anything, and yet a lot could be going on.”
That way, their conscience would fight off temptations. Compared to a sulky attitude because you accused him wrongly. He would say, “that girl, she would say I have even if I haven’t. So I might as well do it. And then find ways of covering it up. If she catches me, that’s that!”
“So let us understand that for trust, the person doesn’t need to be worthy of the trust. Let him know, ‘I trust you.’ With time, he would rise to his best self because that’s what trust does to us.”
Using a real story to buttress his point, Uncle Ebo Whyte narrated a story of a woman who spoke affirmations into her husband’s life despite his rather dubious activities.
He said after a while, the husband realized his foolery and changed his ways.
Why? Because one day, his friends called him a fool because he was messing around whilst your wife thought the best of him.
And when he asked his wife why she never believed all the rumours (although true) about him, she knew her words would get back to him because she was speaking to his better self.
Uncle Ebo Whyte advised partners in relationships to do away with the pain from past relationships and make room for love and trust.
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